Live Second Day 31 Footwash: ~ My Feet Don’t Stink

67002_10151161186412337_1774926524_nDay 31 of My Live Second Journey – Footwash: My Feet Don’t Stink

Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.  John 13:14-15

Today’s scripture is from John 13:1-20.34-35.  In this scripture the time is shortly before the Passover Feast.  Jesus and his disciples are sitting down to a meal and Jesus knowing the time has come for him to leave this world decides to show his disciples the full extent of his love by washing their feet.

The first time I read this I thought ‘Oh how yuk and weird is that?!  Can you imagine Jesus and his disciples all sitting around the table for dinner and just as the food starts to be served Jesus gets up, takes off his outer clothing wraps a towel around himself, fills a basin with water and begins to wash people’s feet?!?  The thought of washing someone else’s feet sounds pretty disgusting and to top it off he chose to do it just as the food was being served. This would not exactly be my idea of a before dinner appetizer.

We would never think that Jesus who was Lord and teacher would ever have to or even want to wash another person’s feet. Yet he chose to do it and he did it lovingly.  Even the fact that Judas Iscariot had already begun to betray him and Peter was soon to follow by denying him did not stop Jesus from this act of love.

Washing someone else’s feet does not sound very appealing to me and I am sure back in those days people did not have the pampered softly manicured feet we have today.  They did not have cars so they walked everywhere they went. I am pretty sure those guys had some of the stinkiest, smelliest, dirtiest feet around.

This past weekend I had a little dinner get together of my own.  One of my guests was someone I haven’t been liking a whole lot lately.  This person is pretty annoying, very loud, and obnoxious and most of the time drunk so for several years I have been avoiding this person like the plague.

Have you ever noticed how some of the people you know come as a packaged deal?  Maybe your husband really likes the husband but you don’t get along with his wife?  Or you may love hanging out with your Aunt Mable but your Uncle Bud drives you nuts?  Since you can not invite only one of them to dinner and not invite the other they become a package deal.  Everyone loves a package deal when shopping but package deals are maybe not so good when it comes to people.

When my guests arrived I was determined try my best to be kind, friendly and most of all stay away from that guest!  I was very thankful that most the day everything pretty much worked it out to where I was able to stay away from my favorite (sarcasm) guest.  But then somehow after dinner I ended up alone in conversation with the person I had been avoiding most of the day.

I began to make small talk while in my mind I secretly worked on my plan of escape.  Then all the sudden this person began telling me stuff I never knew about them.  In the course of the conversation I found out the person had pretty well hit rock bottom.  They also knew that they had screwed their life up to the point of hurting their health and family.  This person was now stuck in a huge pit of despair caused by their own self destruction had been trying desperately to find a way out.  My heart began to feel stabs of pain.  The pain I felt was not my pain but the pain that this person was feeling inside.  Then I began to notice that to be added to that was the pain of people like me who were judging and ignoring them.

The more I listened I realized that nothing could ever compare to the time that I sat there just listening and conversing with this person as they poured their heart out.  All of the sudden I wanted to give this person my help and love.   This person needed to know someone cared about them and that there is always hope.

This conversation was kind of like a foot washing to me, by taking the time to listen I was in a sense washing this person’s feet.  While washing I began to realize I was giving them my love and compassion and did not expect anything back in return.   Something else I discovered was when I stooped down to the level of someone else I saw that there really had never been any level at all.

How will I live more second today?  By trying to be an example of Jesus’ love, by loving unconditionally, humbly and maybe even washing a few dirty feet… starting with my own.

 The Lord and Teacher became servant.  And he calls us to do the same.  Whatever honor we have earned, whatever rights we have acquired, whatever prestige we hold, Jesus calls us to set those aside and become a servant, an example of love and humbleness’ – Live Second

Thank you for reading 🙂


Live Second Day 30: Love ~ Love Across the Miles

Day 30 of My Live Second Journey: Love ~ Love Across the Miles

I looked at my phone in shock and disbelief.  I had just received a text from a friend and what I had just read was absolutely heart breaking.  My friend’s sister’s child had died in an automobile accident.  I just sat there frozen looking at the phone for a long time not knowing how to behave or what to say back to my friend in return.

Shorty after I received that text message I started having overwhelming feelings of sadness and could not get the tears to stop flowing.  This crying caught me a by surprise because I really do not know the boy or his mother personally.  I know his uncle and have prayed for the family before but I keep wondering does that give me a close enough connection to feel this sort of grief?   As I write this my heart is still is breaking for this family and I still can not get them out of my head.  It seems quite strange to me this overwhelming feeling of sadness I have for someone I have never met and I keep asking myself why can’t I stop crying about this?

Today’s reading in the Live Second book was titled ‘Love” the scripture was from Mark 12:28-34 in that scripture Jesus said “The most important one, is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.  Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

As I read this today I suddenly realized what the reason has been for all of my crying these past couple of days.  I am pretty sure it is because of God’s love inside me. Once we have the love of God inside of us we begin to become more like Jesus.  We begin to care more about and love other people more, including those that we have never met.  The more we grow in Him the more His love keeps filling us up.

God’s love can cross miles.  It can cross oceans and mountains and can make the walls of the hardest of hearts come tumbling down.  His love crosses boundaries we would normally think are un-crossable bringing us all closer together as a family like we were meant to be.

The author of the Live Second book wrote – ‘Love is the reason for our creation and the foundation of all relationships.  The mark of our faith and the goal of our life. It is the thing for which we strive, that height we seek to climb, and that purpose for which we move and breathe and live’.

This side of heaven the family I wrote about today may not ever know God’s purpose for bringing their son home so soon.  They also will never know about me, a woman half way across the country who feels love for them or all the other lives that God’s love touched because of their son and their story. But one thing they will always know about and feel is the love of God.

Living second is feeling God’s love growing more and more inside of me each day until it flows out and spills over onto others.   Living second is when suddenly I realize that God is starting to cover my life with His love and it is filling me up so full the excess flows out of my eyes in tears.

Thank you for reading. Check back tomorrow for Day 31 “Footwash”


Where was I? and Other Great Blogs

book-sub2About a month ago I told you about a new project I was going to be a part of in which I and 14 other bloggers were chosen to blog for the I am Second blog site.  We were to read and blog through 4 days of a new book that was released on Dec 9 called ‘Live Second:  365 Ways to Make Jesus First’.

My posts were supposed to be posted on the I am Second blog on Dec 13 – 16 at which time I was supposed to simultaneously post them here on my own blog .  I am not sure what happened but for some reason my posts have not been put on to the I am Second blog as of yet.  I am thinking with the release of the new book maybe they just got really busy and forgot to post them or they had some sort of technical issue.  What ever the reason I want to say I still love the book and I highly recommend you buy it if you have not bought it yet.  I am also going to be posting the posts I wrote here on my blog within the next few days.

Last week there were not only bloggers blogging for the I am Second blog but also a lot of other bloggers who were reading the book and blogging about their own ‘Live Second’ experiences on their own blogs and posting them on our facebook group page.  It was really cool to be a part of all this and I feel very blessed to be a part of all the sharing we all did and also feel as if I made some new friends.  There were a lot of really great posts and I tried to read them all.  I enjoyed reading all the blogs so much that I would like to take this opportunity to share the bloggers that were a part of the Live Second launch.  I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I did.  The blogs are listed in no particular order and I apologize if I missed anyone.  If I missed you and you are a Live Second blogger please add your link in the comments and I will add you to the list.

I hope you enjoy reading these blogs as much as I have.

Thank you for reading and God bless you  🙂

Live Second Day 29: Release ~ I Have Nothing to Release…or Do I?

fb-60daysofSecond-24-300x300In November I told you about a project I was going to be a part of in which I and 14 other bloggers would be reading and blogging together through a new book called ‘Live Second: 365 Ways to make Jesus first’ by Doug Bender.  This is the first of my 4 posts.  You can also go to the I am second website and sign up to follow along as the other 14 bloggers and I journey through the book.  You can also get the ‘Live Second‘ book in stores NOW.


Day 29 of My Live Second Journey:  Release ~ I Have Nothing to Release…or Do I?

“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to.  Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ Matthew 18:32-33

This Week’s Live Second – 365 Ways to Make Jesus First focus is on relationships.  The topic today is ‘Release’ based on scripture from Matthew 18:21-32.  In the scripture it talks about forgiving others as God has forgiven me.

When I read today’s topic I honestly thought I did not have anything going on in my life as far as forgiving or releasing that I would be able to work on. As far as I knew I did not think I had anyone I that needed to forgive…plus I usually forgive others pretty easily, at least that is what I thought when I read it.  Little did I know that in less than an hour I was going to have one of those days where God shows me I just might be wrong.

Shortly after I read today’s page of the book my husband said something to me that hurt my feelings.  Before I go any further rest assured that I am not going to use this blog to slam my husband, the assignment is to write about how I am going to apply what I read today in my life.  I will try to do the best I can without giving you all the unimportant details.

Within about 2 seconds of my husband’s hurtful comment I fired right back in a not so ‘WWJD’ type of fashion only to be met with a more hurtful statement than the first one.

Since the book reading was fresh in my mind I was a perfect angel and I was quick to apply what I had just read by forgiving him immediately and then apologizing for my own behavior… I wish I could say that statement was true but instead I fired right back at him in perfect ‘Terri’ form with things I am not so proud to say I said now and then I proceeded to carry the hurt and anger around for 3 days.  Yes you read right day 2 took me 3 days to figure out how I was going to ‘release’.

Forgiveness is really hard when you have been hurt.  Words can cut a person in half sometimes cutting clear to the bone exposing so deep you can almost feel them hit your soul.  How can I forgive when I feel so torn and ripped apart?   Especially when the person who did the hurting can not see they have caused a hurt so deep that I am still carrying it around?   How do I forgive when I am so darn mad?!?

Yesterday I started to think about what I had read and I asked myself ‘was I treating my husband with the same sort of grace that God has given me?’  I then prayed “God please help me to forgive my husband.  After praying I reluctantly decided to forgive him but then when I saw him before I could catch them the words “I forgive you for being an ass!” fell out of my mouth.   My husband then said, “You forgive me for being an ass??” as he kinda laughed. I know what I did was not really what the author of this book had in mind and I am pretty sure it most definitely is not what God would want me to do.  But in this instance it broke the ice… the ice on my frozen heart.

As he said the words “you forgive me” with a glimmer of humor in his eyes at that moment God convicted me of my behavior… Yes you read right, my own behavior.  My husband had hurt my feelings but it was not until that moment that I realized that I was carrying around so much more anger at him than I even knew I was carrying.  I am not sure why but I think I had been keeping a tally of every thing he had ever done or said to ‘hurt’ me.   The problem with that is when we have arguments I go back to seeing those past things instead of focusing on what is going on right now at this moment.   The minute I asked Jesus to be my savior and to forgive me of my sins the slate was wiped clean and now it was time for me to do the same.

A few minutes later found my self apologizing to my husband and the next thing I knew he said he was sorry to me also.

I know this will not apply in every circumstance and our issue was a minor compared to what others may be facing. But I do know that when we release that anger and live with the same type of forgiveness God gives to us it allows for wounds to begin to heal.

How will I live more second today?  By trying to remember that the only way I can have peace in this life and be able to let the light of Jesus shine by giving the same grace to others that God has given to me by forgiving and then learning to truly release it. 6358_10151161186987337_818276027_n

Come visit tomorrow for Day 30:   Love ~ Love Across the Miles.

Thank you for reading.


An Interview With Doug Bender

book-sub1This week I am participating in a blog campaign for the release of a new book Called ‘Live Second – 365 Ways to Make Jesus First’ by Doug Bender.  It has been a fun and exciting week with one of the highlights being yesterday I had the opportunity to speak on the phone and interview the Author of the book, Doug Bender.

This was the first time in my life I have ever interviewed anyone and to interview the author of a book well lets just say I was a teeny tiny bit nervous…okay I will admit it I was more than a teeny tiny bit nervous I was a lot nervous!   Armed with my list of questions (all 5 of them) I called his phone number at our scheduled time.  As I sat there holding the phone to my ear listening to it begin to ring I have to admit I was shaking in my house slippers and hoping I would be able to speak when he answered the phone.  The phone rang… and rang… and rang… and rang, when it was finally picked up on the other end I heard the sound of  a recording saying that the person I had called was unavailable so to please leave a message.  I have to admit I think I may have felt a bit relieved he didn’t answer; But my relief was short lived because within about two seconds I received a text message saying he was on another call and would call me back shortly then within a matter of seconds my phone rang and it was Doug Bender.   I also realized from the  first hello all my nervousness had been for nothing because Doug Bender is a very friendly and easy to talk to guy.

Below is my interview with Doug Bender …

I will start with a lesson I learned today as I tried to put this all together… 

Interviewer lesson #1 make sure you remember to write things down or bring a recording device unless you are a speed writer or retained the shorthand you took in high school.   For those of you youngsters who do not know what shorthand is you can Google it or just take my advice you don’t really want to know shorthand.  With that being said please remember I tried to decipher my notes and in quoting Doug I am pretty sure I got it all right but just in case I didn’t consider this as my disclaimer * 😀

Now on to the interview…

Doug was born July 8, 1983 and lives in Dallas Texas

Are you married?  Yes I am married my wife’s name Catherine and we have a two year old daughter named Bethany.

What do you like do when you are not working?  I love to run,  I just ran a marathon this past weekend.   I also love music, my wife Catherine and I met while we were doing music.  I play the guitar and I also play the violin.  As a couple we both also love to cook and visit ‘hole in the wall’ type restaurants where we love to eat Ethnic and spicy foods.

The new book has 365 Ways to Make Jesus First. Do you have a personal favorite? Why?  I’m not sure.  I think everyone will have a different favorite depending on where they are at.  But for me, I think my favorites are all the Day 7 entries.  The Day 7 entries are all prayers from the Bible.  Prayers from the Psalms, from Jesus and from the prophets.  I was blown away in writing this when I got to read nearly every prayer in the Bible.  I found I did not talk with God nearly in the same way as they seemed to.  It really changed the way I approached God. *(see note at the bottom)

How did you get involved in I am second?  I came on with I am Second just after it started… I think it was a couple months after the website launched, about 5 years ago.  I worked (and still do) with e3 Partners  overseas as a church planter, I was in Ethiopia at that time.  I am Second was started as an attempt to share the faith and spread the gospel that we were seeing overseas to our own backdoor.   I came on the team to write the small group discussion guides for I am Second and my role has grown with time,  I now work full-time on the I am Second team.

Well that about wraps up my interview with Doug Bender we talked for about 30 minutes I know I did not get it all down here because I was just so interested in what he had to say that I got to listening and forgot to write it all down.  The most important thing I discovered in our talk is Doug Bender has dedicated his life to God.  He loves Jesus  and he seems to be doing his best to make sure others know Jesus too.  I had a lot of fun as I talked with him and I am so glad I had this opportunity to get to know him better.

If you would like to know more about I am second or Doug Bender here are a few links for you…

A link to Doug’s personal video on the I am second website –

I am second website –

I am Second blog –

I also want to mention I have been reading the book every day and highly recommend it.  It is a book with 365 daily readings that get you into your Bible to read.  The book then also prompts you to take what you have learned in your reading and apply it in your daily living. Link to the book –  Live Second- 365 Ways to make Jesus First

That about wraps it up have a blessed day and thank you for reading 🙂

* from the question above about which day is Doug’s favorite from the book…this question was also asked during an online chat I attended on facebook the night before, like I said earlier I forgot to write down all the answers during the interview so for this question copied his answer from the facebook chat I am pretty sure he answered this question almost exactly the same in both interviews. 


As many of you know I am reading and blogging through a new book that is soon to be released Called ‘Live Second: 365 Ways to making Jesus First’.  Today’s topic is not officially my topic to post about but have to say I am really enjoying each days reading.  I am trying to apply what I read in the book each day and write about how it goes in my Journal.  Some of the days I will put here on my blog.  My officially assigned days to blog  are not until December 13-16th.

Today’s Topic was titled “Childless”  The passage of scripture used is:

Genesis 15:1-3

After this, the word of the Lord came to Abram in a vision: “Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your very great reward.” But Abram said, “Sovereign Lord, what can you give me since I remain childless and the one who will inherit my estate is Eliezer of Damascus?” And Abram said, “You have given me no children; so a servant in my household will be my heir.”

In this story God had told Abram that he and his wife Sarai would have a son who would be his heir but because of Abrams age he had a hard time trusting in God that he would do what he said he would do and became impatient.  Abram finally confronted God and reminded him of the promise he had made but unfortunately if you read the rest of the story you will see that Abram eventually takes matters into his own hands and fathers a child with his wife’s servant Hagar.  Had Abram actually waited on God a little longer he would have seen that God was going to give him the son he had promised with his own wife Sarai.

When I first read this story I wondered to myself  “what was wrong with this man?’  but Abram is not so much different than I am.  When God does not answer my prayers right away I start to get impatient and I sometimes start second guessing what He has told me or if things do not happen fast enough and I sometimes start to think maybe I heard Him wrong so I start trying to take matters into my own hands.

God wants us to come to him with our needs talk to him about them.  He does not want us to keep them to ourselves.  We should talk to him it should not be that hard to go to him and say, “hey God this is how I feel…”  Sometimes I just won’t talk to Him because I assume He is so busy or what I want is just to much to ask for.  Sometimes I get impatient like Abram did because I have waited a long so I give up and think that God has forgotten me or it was not in his plan to answer my prayer so I just assume his answer is no.

I wrote about this same subject a week ago in another blog post about a miracle I had with my eye, if you want to read that post you can read it by clicking here–> My Miracle.  That whole ordeal was something I waited almost 2 years for an answer to and I had kinda given up on God healing me.   What I did not realize was, that I had stopped asking him for healing.  I think in my mind I thought he was not going to give that to me so I had just quit asking for healing and was settling for peace instead.

Once I opened my mouth and talked with God openly and directly telling him what it was that I wanted He gave it to me.  I am not saying that He will give us everything we want but what I do mean is if it is in line with his will, it will happen, but we have to be patient and Believe He can and will do it.    In the case of my eye, I was healed from what caused my blindness.  I do still have a tiny blind spot in that eye but the cause of the blindness is finally healed.  I feel as if that is what God was waiting on.  I think He was teaching me to be patient and to put complete trust in Him and once I learned that He gave me healing.

How will I live more second today?  I will try to stop second guessing God’s plan in my life and start talking more to Him about what is on my mind.  Then I will believe and trust that he is God and know that with Him all things are possible.

You can follow us as we blog through the Live Second: 365 Ways to making Jesus First book at

Exciting News!

I am so excited to tell you about a new project that I get to be a part of!   Starting on November 9th I have the pleasure of joining 14 other bloggers as we blog through a new book called ‘Live Second:  365 Ways to Make Jesus First’ by Doug Bender.

The book has 365 daily devotional type readings that are supposed to challenge and inspire people to consider what it would be like if they were to put Jesus first in their lives.  What the other bloggers and I will be doing is we will each be writing about our own personal journey as we dare to live second for 60-Days-of-Second by using what we have read and trying to apply it to our daily lives.

The blog campaign kicks off tomorrow, November 9th.  If you would like you can follow along on the I am Second blog at    My 4 blog posts will be featured on the I am Second blog December  13 – 16th and also I will be posting them here on my own blog those same dates.  The book will be available in stores on December 9th.

If you are not familiar with I am Second you can find out more about them at this link to their website.  Check it out –>

I am still just so amazed that I was chosen to get to be a part of this and can’t wait to see what the other bloggers write too! I am still pinching myself to make sure I am really awake and not dreaming 🙂 🙂  I will be sharing more with you about this SOON 🙂

Thanks for reading and God bless you 🙂